That is some good stuff folks. Thanks TVS, FY, Hopper and rH!
All my "yeah, but"s don't hold water when I get the insight as to where W may be coming from and how she could interpret things...still more work for me to do there, this communicating with the other person's interpretation/perspective in mind...guess I have some books to re-review...
The hard part is that she isn't very communicative right now, so not a lot of opportunity to practice, fail and learn. With minimal risk...
This is a good lesson that when I am in "must DO/SAY something mode" to wait, re-think, etc, before doing.
I keep hearing 25yrs advice "how are you going to SHOW that the M will be different NOW than it WAS?" in my head.
So later today after seeing anymore comments I will cobble something together along the advised words here, and leave my phrasing for Plan B or Plan C.
And I do know that right now, rH, she doesn't want to work "together" too much...I frustrate myself sometimes that the manner in which I "work" has rewarded me so much in the work world, but is such a challenge on the home front...I guess too many years of "emergency fix/must do now" training/habit make it an instinct that I need to overcome and learn when apply, and when to not.
We have also learned that the awesome charter school is closing in a couple weeks, absent some financial miracle, so yet another BIG stressor (how to finish the school year, homeschool, public school, most of the charter schools have waiting lists) mixed in with the illness cycling through the house...Life can slow down and cut us some slack ANYTIME now....lol.
Thanks for your input and listening folks...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
