25 - I also wanted to say thanks for posting and being so knowledgeable. I read every post of yours I see and it always makes me think about something I'm doing (or not doing). Your own 'thanks guys' thread above has so many nuggets of great info in it I've added it to my watched list so I can reread it later.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
I think the WAS is far more likely to return IF you GAL, become less predictable, do the 180s for long enough, lose the anger/scorecard, keep the road home paved & smooth, are happy w/yourself and upbeat about your future, and learn how to forgive (which is not necessarily something you need to even tell your WAS...)
This is pretty much what DB is in a nutshell. Some are hard to do for many of us (lose the scorecard, forgive, etc...) and some are confusing (keeping the road paved) but when all combined it does give the best chance for our M's to be saved.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
