2tp,

Bonnie Raitt is right, and living with someone who does not love you the way you need to be loved is a little slice of personal hell.

She told you what you knew but didn't want to hear, so now she feels badly and wants relief from her guilt at the same time you need to grieve. Her overtures are about her seeing you okay with this so that she is not the bad guy. Unfortunately these gestures can give the LBS false hope.

If you want to give her relief act as if. If you need time to grieve, don't worry about it --these are her choices and you don't need to fix it for her. You do need to let her off the hook at this point and give up on temperature taking.

Don't wait to see what the tide washes in, paddle out in the big surf and take it!
ke it

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015