I just sent an email to my L, asking him the questions that kept me up last night, and also to let him know the minimum I need to cover my expenses. My friend today told me to let the L negotiate the support amount with my H, but this sounds adversarial to me. I think it's best to negotiate this with my H directly (and it'll be a lot cheaper.) Thoughts??
In the past, I've been a horrible negotiator, maybe bc I always want to be nice and don't like people getting upset, so this will be a tough one.
Hi Tori. I agree with your friend and lil'G on this one. Here's why: Sure, you'll have to pay the L for his time, but he'll get you a better settlement. Best of all though, you won't have to deal with it. Isn't that worth something?
Don't make it about saving money, or being non-adversarial with H. He'll get over it just fine. Look at all the crap you had to, and still are dealing with!
I don't believe in karma, or even a personal god for that matter. But I do believe in the power of positive thinking. Those who think positive are more likely to see positive things in their life. And it is quite obvious to me that some people find this power of positive thinking through these avenues that I can't see. So for them, their faith can be helpful.
One thing I do know for sure... We only have so many days left on this earth, (you probably a few more than me, you youngster you. lol) so why not figure a way to enjoy each one the best we can, no matter what comes our way?
