I remember when you told me (way back when) that the reason H hadn't returned was cuz he was a-I hadn't changed and he believed that our relationship would be the same or b-he was worried that he wasn't ready to be in the relationship (fear of failure).
Well I realized that it was B! And I took your advice and worked on MYSELF because I couldn't make him feel more secure about my changes than I was already doing. And that's when I started working harder on detaching.
It took me more than the time I expected but I finally got the point where I was happy and if he decided to live his life with someone else, I would STILL be happy!
My life is not contingent on HIM! It's all ME!! I make myself happy!
Thank you 25!
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
