Studies in Feral Cats, part 5

[Raine]

From a woman's perspective, mind you, a non-alien perspective so take what you will, I wouldn't want to be told this is because I need time to heal. This would make me feel like a failure. What I would hear is "You're broken. You're a failure. Go fix yourself and I'll fix this mess. I need to take over."

I think if you approached it as "This is something I would love to do. It would mean a lot to me if you'd let me do this for the next three months (six months, whatever timeline you want to set so she knows this is temporary) and we can see how it goes." I don't know if you even need to bring up that it has to do with budget either. Again, I could see this being taken as "You spend way too much money on food and I need to take this over because you're causing us financial stress." Her sending that email and bringing up the topic herself gives you the ability to jump in and help her without having to give much justification. She has put herself out there for help and you can now give it without making her feel bad about it. "I understand this is something you hate. It would be something I would really enjoy doing and then you could have some free time for YOU to do something you love too. It would mean a lot to me if you would support me in me doing this."