GTO, you've been dedicated to your H and kids for a long time. Ask yourself, who are you, really? What matters to you in life? Maybe your first goal is to come up with a dream for you to achieve. And another goal might be to be patient and kind to yourself.

Also, think about all the reasons your M is in trouble and the role you played. You can't do anything about your H's behavior except for changing your own behavior. Remember what Michelle says: we have incredible influence on our S's, whether they acknowledge it or not!