I think it's "her territory" and your changes MAY have looked controlling. Not sure. But no, it's not about making her leave.
I can see that I may have stepped on her toes. If she believes that I am controlling (and she DOES), then I think that's what she was actually saying. "You are taking over everything. I should leave since my input doesn't matter anymore."
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
how'd You handle that talk?^^^ Did you call her on any of it?
I showed her the mistake she made. I should have left it at that, but I returned to tell her that I am not the full she makes me out to be. It was just a spiteful dig that, I am sure, did nothing to improve things. She had already seen her error. I'm still learning to shut my mouth.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
what's with challenging or cornering her into leaving? You want to "teach her a lesson" or "show her the consequences" of her actions? That's not a spouse's job. Life does that for them. Not us. (Per my DB coach).
You are right on this one. That was not well thought out by me.
I do believe she feels unloved by me. I think that she feels she hasn't been able to meet my expectations and my love for her has been conditional. I am attempting to rectify this, but at the same time not pursue. This is a VERY difficult task.
