EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

[leopoldstotch]

4. You say all the people in your home culture who don't believe in divorce were happy with what they had, and to extrapolate from what you said, their children too learned happy healthy relationship skills and passed them on to the next generation. I call B.S. You've been given a wake-up call that your W WAS NOT HAPPY in your marriage. You want her to find out it's not so bad and come back and tolerate it for the rest of her life. You can't figure out why she wasn't satisfied with you. That right there, that's where your work should be right now. Finding that out and working on it.

I hope you really pay attention to this SM. Adinva hit it right on the head. Time and time again I keep reading how your W hasn't told her family because they won't approve of her A. What do you hope to gain if she told her family? You say you don't want her shamed in coming back to you but I'm beginning to believe that is EXACTLY what you want. Your posts are riddled with how you are the better choice you are this you are that. Are you truly the better choice? Right now, no you are not.

Adinva is right you have been given a wake up call. Stop blaming the OM and accept your short comings in your M because if you don't then you won't have a chance to save your M.