B, I am so sorry that those therapists reacted in that way. There are, unfortunately, many who are incompetent and not in tune with proaction.
But I see between the lines that you are thinking that maybe if you went to someone different that things would have turned out differently.
I want you to know, without a single doubt, that there was nothing you could do to stop this from happening. This was a journey he was meant to take.
The fact that all those things happened right before the bomb should show you that he is in crisis.
It is normal, when you have another blow like having to deal with the divorce, to rehash it all in your head.
It really is not something that we can understand as we have not gone through an MLC.
Please dont beat yourself up in your head.
You were a loving, loyal wife. Sure there are things we all have to own. But, we did the best we could with the tools and knowledge we had at the time.
He has to walk this path. And you have to continue on yours.
I expect you will have a little backsliding in your thinking for a bit. But dont let this take away from your hardearned work.
