Bruce, you can't expect us to feel sorry for you feeling bad and crying. We do because we've been there, but that does you exactly zero good. Get on with it.
You asked what are you supposed to do at this point, wish her luck, as if you haven't been told hundreds, maybe thousands of times by now exactly what you are supposed to do, step by step. Here rkyfat has spelled it out for you, again. What you are supposed to do is do better. Starting right now. Just for you.
Have you mastered changing your son's diaper now, so that he's as clean as you'd want to be if he were you? What's his favorite t-shirt? What's his favorite color and food? Are you as passionately in love and interested in him as you ever were in your wife, yet? Have you made a friend with a child and set up a playdate yet?
I cannot believe you'd come here and say you don't know where to start or what to do. It's like all the time that people have been here writing to you has been a complete waste. Next time you want to come in here and moan about how rotten you feel (and go ahead that's what this place is for), before you hit "Submit," think for 30 seconds more and try to channel someone who's been posting here, and ask yourself, what would they say in response to your question. Answer it yourself, here. And tell what you're going to do next, don't ask.
That is how you learn.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
