I don't think you will find ton of crappy advice around here - you will, but I have found those people are only here for a brief time. If you approach this from the standpoint that you can only learn from people that have actually saved their marriages you are really limiting the potential of what you can learn here.....seriously, open yourself to that concept.
I DB'd my a$$ of and my divorce still went through - and when it did, I CONTINUED to get excellent advice from people here that both succeeded and failed in saving their marriages. I didn't stop my divorce - but I did wake up...a lot. And that, ultimately, might be the thing that will save the relationship between my XW and me.
Net-net, my marriage failed and I STILL think I am giving you good advice -- as are others here in situations similar to mine. Don't sell those folks short. But more importantly, don't make getting your wife back the "win". I get it - we are all here to do that, but if you do or don't you need to make the "win" about you becoming a better guy all around....for good.
