EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

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GH31 yes you are right. I do believe she is stalling in case OM doesn't work out. Of course me, her mom, and everyone who knows about this is pretty sure it will NOT work out. He still has made no effort to move to our city, doesn't drive here to see here like he did the first week, and hasn't gotten a second job. its all lies, and when W sees that it will be a HUGE reality check.

Of course there is no guarantee that will be enough to bring her back to me. So I'm not holding my breath! I'm going on with my life as if she is leaving, although I do believe she won't. [quote=SM34]

SM it sure doesn't sound to me as if you are with your life as if your W isn't coming back and do you know how I know that? Every single one of your posts is about HER. You my friend are not detached in fact you are codependent.

[quote=SM34] Haven't heard from her since yesterday. I'm at work right now, and don't really care much what she is up to. Mother in law did message me to tell me W told her she IS coming home today instead of tomorrow. Again, not sure why, don't care much. Just happy it is one less night with OM.[quote=SM34]

You don't care what she is up to but it's one less night with OM? If you really didn't care (or were DETACHED) then her being with OM wouldn't bother you.

[quote=SM34]I have been paying more attention to who I take advise from on this board. There are many unsuccessful poeople, although I think some of them got to a point where their W hated them with a passion, and thankfully that is not where I am. If it was, I would be realistic about my chances.[quote=SM34]

That's pretty bold coming from you. Do you know all this for a fact and who is to say how your W truly feels? The only one who knows HOW she feels is HER!

[quote=SM34] I'm still working on my attractiveness, for W or for whoever I end up with =). I am practicing heavy eye contact, enjoying positive interaction with other women, (like the masseuse who was hitting on me). Havent had much time to read lately but I will finish the Men's guide to better relationships and marriage soon.[quote=SM34]

Sorry but I find this very strange. So in one post you said that people don't respect marriage but yet here you are practicing "eye contact" and "positive interactions" (whatever that means)with other women but you can't take your wife with OM. Don't you think the things you doing with other women were missing in your M? I bet your W would say they were.

[quote=SM34]Please come back soon and offer me some tips on how to work my osition. It is nice to get a man';s perspective especially from a man who actually saved his marriage.[quote=SM34]

You are getting a lot of men perspectives here. SM a lot of us keep telling you there is no magic pill to make your W come back to you. I think you are slowly getting that but I also think you still believe this can "wrapped up" fairly quickly. I see that you still say OM "convinced" your W to have an A. Well guess what? He didn't "convince" her she made a choice in fact she still is making a choice to see him.

I keep reiterating to you that not everyone is successful in saving their M. You say you get that but I don't believe you truly do.this post alone proves my point. You don't believe she will leave you. I truly hope she doesn't but you'd better lose that cocky attitude right now or it will be your downfall, mark my words.

The men who ended up saving their M also went through hell and back SM. Those men were ready to move on with their lives without their S and you are no where close to that. In fact you haven't even begun your journey yet and for the love of God please listen to 25 she is very wise.