BF, it's okay to think and analyze, as long as it doesn't paralyze you. What have you learn and what are you learning now? If your H wants to initiate a M talk, what would you say? Being prepared counts for a lot. At the same time, the LRT says no R talk, so if this is what you're doing ( and I think it is) it might be best to avoid the talk, but that doesn't mean you can't do a self-talk. See what I mean?
