Thank you so much all of you! I'm going to sleep on your posts and respond tomorrow morning.

I feel very supported and that in itself makes a huge difference.

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012