Trying to move forward

[Dewayne]

Well, considering that I was happy as far as marriage goes, there's really not much I wouldn't be happy with if things were the norm. But since she changed after about 2 months of taking Celexa, she would definitely have to come out of her mania (that's what the dr's are calling it.) Said she has to 1, come out of her mania before we can do anything else. So that's my #1 thing. IF her mania is SSRI Induced (not triggering bipolar episode) then I have a bigger fight on my hands. If it is just a bipolar episode, we're pretty deep into a long episode. I just have to stop prolonging it. Anything that upsets her can / will prolong an episode. Since she has shown signs of crashing, I'm starting to just back off and let her crash and see what she does.

Drugs: That problem is being solved. She told me I can call her SIL and she will confirm to me if I'd like, for the simple fact she says she wished she'd stay on the drug, "it seems to have helped her" but she hasn't learned about the drug and especially doesn't think about the REASON she's on it (was NOT for depression)

In the marriage, obviously our typical boundaries will be set back in place IF we try to piece. Our typical boundaries included limited contact with any threatening individuals to our marriage or friendship. Meaning single guys that may eventually cause issues, etc. "Friends of the marriage can be friends with us" sort of thing. We had those boundaries prior.

Me? I'm nicked my anger. Taken anger tests and passed now.

Affection? I think I won't have to worry about that now. Knowing about love languages and the shear fact of missing her for months now, there shouldn't be an affection problem.

Listening? Sure, I think I got that one going strong.

Belittling her? Learned my lesson. I'll NEVER do that again. Ever. I've cried most of my tears for thinking some of the things I've said to her (wasn't near often, but few times is few too many)

As far as my side goes, that's about it.

Get her off the meds.

Get past her mania.

Then talk to see what she wants to do when she's thinking clearly.

Move on from that point.

I'm just trying to get by at this point. Btw, I posted a bit ago, and it told me I was under moderation... again. I doubt I'll be posting much if I have to keep waiting... again.