EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

[25yearsmlc]

GH31 yes you are right. I do believe she is stalling in case OM doesn't work out.

Yes...

Of course me, her mom, and everyone who knows about this is pretty sure it will NOT work out.

but that does not mean she'll come home to you.


He still has made no effort to move to our city, doesn't drive here to see here like he did the first week, and hasn't gotten a second job. its all lies, and when W sees that it will be a HUGE reality check.

ALL of this^^ is NOT about YOU. This is your pattern. Predictions about other people's choices. Nothing about your work.

Of course there is no guarantee that will be enough to bring her back to me. So I'm not holding my breath! I'm going on with my life as if she is leaving, although I do believe she won't.

How so? I mean, how are you going on in your life as if she is not coming back? What GAL is new that is not tied to getting her back or wanting to? Any? Since you do NOT believe she's going to leave you, how is it that you are acting as she is?

Even if you're not just in denial, how does this apparent faith in the future help you change? I think it does the opposite.




Haven't heard from her since yesterday. I'm at work right now, and don't really care much what she is up to. Mother in law did message me to tell me W told her she IS coming home today instead of tomorrow. Again, not sure why, don't care much. Just happy it is one less night with OM.


All about her^^^....and you "not caring" about it....

I have been paying more attention to who I take advise from on this board. There are many unsuccessful poeople, although I think some of them got to a point where their W hated them with a passion, and thankfully that is not where I am. If it was, I would be realistic about my chances.

Try not to play people against each other or make us argue with Laurie or others.
I sort of felt like we were getting played against each other or being tri-angulated.
Let's lay our cards down and YOU choose without blaming someone else is the choice you say you made and implemented, doesn't work.

I'm still working on my attractiveness, for W or for whoever I end up with =).

or for YOU to feel good about maxing your potential??


I am practicing heavy eye contact, enjoying positive interaction with other women, (like the masseuse who was hitting on me). Havent had much time to read lately but I will finish the Men's guide to better relationships and marriage soon.

Um, how is your eye contact with your W going?

Please come back soon and offer me some tips on how to work my osition. It is nice to get a man';s perspective especially from a man who actually saved his marriage.

Good luck