And the reason it struck of chord is because my H rarely if ever apologizes. I also have other family members who have abused me and then demanded that I apologize because I was offended by their harm towards me.
That totally contradicts my belief system and I'm not going to change it to satisfy MrBond.
My H accepted my apologies. The DR book says to not keep apologizing over and over. The Co-Dependency book says not to. So I'm not going to.
I'm not going to spend the rest of my life trying to win back my H. He either wants to be together or not. At this point I could care less.
I don't consider this support. When someone has been traumatized you wait until they are ready to begin with the hard work. I've not told everything here because I'm not comfortable.
I'm going to go away now because I'm not finding this board helpful right now. I'll come back later when I've had some time to heal.
Me: 44 H: 48 M: 4 yrs My EA: 2010 & 2012 Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11 H left 1st time: 10/28/11 Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11 H left 2nd time: 12/23/12 Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8
