About 2 weeks ago, I got a phone message from one of H old girlfriends, wanting to see if H and I could get together for dinner one night. She is a very nice lady who I've gone to lunch with on occasion.
H and I went to dinner with her and her husband about a year ago. She has kept in touch with H sporadically through the years.
I left her a message that she would have to call H and check with him. I figured I would put the ball in his court, and if he didn't want to go, he could make some excuse about his schedule being too full. It wouldn't me pressuring him to go to keep up appearances.
I didn't hear back from her all week, which I thought was strange. I wondered if he had talked to her and declined.
She called me yesterday and we chatted for about 10 minutes. She said that she had talked to H. She said that he said he would love to get together with them, that he had been working a lot, and needed to have some fun and relax.
She said that although he had a lot on his plate, he laughed and joked. He told her about our son's good grades in college. He told her all about his new boss. He told her I had been walking a lot.
She said he said that he would check his schedule and would get back to her this weekend after talking with me. He has not mentioned one word to me.
She asked him if he knew she had called, and he said yes, we knew she had called. I don't know how he knew that unless he checked the handset to our home phone, which he never uses.
Thinking about the masks snodderly mentioned in tvs thread. Away from home, he is the same old fun filled guy. The one who used to make my cheeks hurt from laughing so much.
Here in the home lives the man whose main conversations consist of what the weather is going to be. And who acts like he would rather walk the plank than sit anywhere near me.
Please send some positive thoughts my way. Tomorrow all of us have to attend a family bday party, and then Superbowl party. I feel so uncomfortable being ignored by him at his family's house. Not knowing if he has said anything to them bothers me, too.
On another note, I am excited about some new activities my children are going to be participating in, which I think will be good for them and me. I just hope that I can be organized enough to pull it off. It's a huge time commitment. Wish me luck.
