not sure where to go from here

[tiredndrained]

So, we are still stuck in the same spot...nothing ever changes. H is being nice but I hate thinking he gets away with everything. Has a family at home and gets the comfort of his own home and gets to do whatever he wants since I am not questioning him again. I still am unsure whether these are baby steps or he is just cake eating. Things are improving but when he still goes out I still have to wonder where he goes at night. Still trying to fix myself. My IC wants me to work on stopping looking at things from his perspective and work on my own perspective. I tend to try and always see things from another's point of view. In this situation I am cheating myself of my own feelings when I try and sympathize with him and his problems. I won tix to a show and asked him to go with me. I was fully expecting him to say no and he said yes. Again, baby steps or cake eating...I'm still working on an answer for myself.