I'm lucky that we have many alanon meetings in our area, and I've found a great one. Just keep going!!! Get the literature, meditation books and the alanon book if you don't have them. I read through those when I'm feeling especially crazy.
As a recovering alcoholic myself, really try to lay off his other stuff, the eating & caffiene. Getting sober is hard!! I started smoking again when I got sober. Healthy, nope. But I eventually quit that & in the grand scheme of things...when I smoked I didn't rip everyone's hearts out . H is only a month sober, yes? Trust me, he isn't going to be mr happy happy, joy for awhile. Bottom line, for me, drinking was my solution. So when that was gone I had no clue how to deal with life. I was not much fun to be around. Luckily for me, I through myself in a 12 step program, worked on me and became a happy, fun person to be around...mostly
None of this is to excuse your H's behavior, but you will need support and doing work on you to navigate this. I feel for you. Living with an alcoholic is hard, sober or not.
Here is part of my mediation in a courage to change:
" live & let live sets us free from the compulsion to criticize, judge, condemn, and retaliate...[which] can damage us far more than those against whom we use such weapons. Al-anon helps us to learn tolerance rooted in live."
You are doing really well! Have patience with yourself
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
. H is only a month sober, yes? Trust me, he isn't going to be mr happy happy, joy for awhile. Bottom line, for me, drinking was my solution. So when that was gone I had no clue how to deal with life. I was not much fun to be around. Luckily for me, I through myself in a 12 step program, worked on me and became a happy, fun person to be around...mostly 