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Hey BK! Glad to hear that stbx's fog has lifted long enough to at least try to make a connection with the kids and put a little moolah into the bank account. Just be careful not to get your hopes up. You know the fog will be rolling back in any minute. Best to keep that sweater on.

Speaking of which, I hope you and the kids are staying warm during the deep freeze? It was right around 80 degrees here today. wink


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My H went from being a doting father to not calling his kids for six weeks and rarely seeing them. It's probably the biggest sign to me that this is not normal or to do with me/our relationship.


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BD:8/12
OWDB:11/12
S:11/12-5/13
"Temp" home:6/13
OW dropped:9/13
"I love you":12/13
H ring on:2/14
Depression back:5/15
"I'm done:" 7/15
H moved out: 3/16
H moved back: 12/16
Working on us: 3/17
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So not really related to my family but a very dramatic event at work today.

I had to fire someone. My jobs are short so it's over tomorrow so the guy is only losing 1 day of work but still it hurts.

I didn't fire the guy because he was incompetent. I fired him cause my boss got mad and thought he insulted someone else. It's really a mess.

But it brought up so many emotions for me. I hate that people don't get along or fight. I hate unjust things.

It's so crazy I feel so much more these days


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I am so bummed out.

Stbx sent me an email asking that I get my financials together for the lawyers. Just feels like this D is inevitable and I don't understand why.

I want to shout at him don't you get it we love you. The girls and I need our daddy and our husband back. Come home!

Instead I say nothing. I think saying nothing is really hard on me emotionally, it keeps things bottled up. Writing here helps


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I'm sorry Brook.

Anything u need to hear right now? He is self will run riot.

Or, I can listen?

Heather


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“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
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I am so sorry, B. I know that no matter how much we think we are ready for to hear those words, it still hurts to the core.

No one knows what the future holds. This is a journey he must walk himself.

You will be feeling all kinds of things. Anger, sadness, disbelief again.

Feel them and then it really is necessary for you to try to pull yourself together in order to protect yourself and your children.

Be kind to yourself and hug those babies tight.

I have seen how strong you are, B. You will get through this.

Thinking of you. (((hugs)))

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Thanks guys. I know I just have to feel the pain right now and I will cone out the other side somehow. Right now it hurts.


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I know it does :-( it's not fair.

But, u are strong and u may not feel it today, but u will feel better. It's the disease, not about u. Cunning and baffling.

Take good care of urself today.

Heather


"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man

“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
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Brook,

Just checking in. I hope you are feeling a little better. You have more power than you think. Don't forget that.

Easy Does It.

Heather


"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man

“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
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(((BK)))

If it makes you feel better your H is a fool. I know you love him but God has a plan for you. Pray and hang onto God!!! Please believe He will never let you down!!!

Take care!!
WH


AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012
Two kids, one dog
D Final 6/18/14
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