I do not want to be supporting my "ex-wife" because she is not able or willing to do so herself.

It seems that she always has "supported" herself. And has worked hard to get a job and is now advancing. Seems as tho she's more than willing and able.

Why are you suddenly so sure that she won't continue to do that?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss