Hmmm.....lots to think about and a TON to share right now.

First, regarding wifes finances. For the last 6 years, since D was born, my W has done in home childcare. She made a pretty tidy little income doing this, and it allowed her to be a SAHM and work as well. We shared all of our home expenses. Her childcare option ended right before BD, leaving her without work literally when we separated. She had been seaking work religously leading up to this point. She had a couple very disapointing interviews where she was not hired and she thought she was a shoe in. She was very discouraged by this. She did begin working a PT job at an insurance company where she makes 500 a month shortly after BD. She is working very hard towards becoming a license agent. She tests this month. I think that is a partial reason why she has been friendly and quiet in regards to the living situation. She knows if she stirred the divorce pot, I would ask her to leave.

Now, I do actually want to hurt her financially. Not because I want her life to be difficult, but mostly to give her a wakeup call of what is to come. She says she knows exactly what she is doing, but I honestly don't feel that she realizes how hard this will be financially on the both of us. With my business contributing greatly to our living situation, we have it pretty good. We live a very nice life, nice cars, beautiful home, fun working conditions, while not really making a large income. That will change for her immeidately after we split.

That is it in a nutshell. Ideally, I want to reconcile...more on that later , ugh crazy, but I also don't want to be taken advantage of while my W is just waiting for the right time to drop the hammer on me with divorce. However, morally, I guess that is what I should do, give her support as much as I can.

Thanks for the input. If you have any more, I am all ears!

Me:46 Her:38
My D: 11
Her S: 8