The approach I took was to box up whatver was bothering me. I took down all the pictures with her face. I completely cleaned out the master closet. I wiped out her junk from the master bathroom and left everything else in the house in place. I didn't say a word about it to her. I just did it.
When she comes over to get something, I simply say, "if it's not there it's probably in the garage". There's a few things that have gone missing. Maybe she lost them during her "move"...ooops
