I don't know why they do this.

I had a previous R with a man 10 yrs older than me. He claimed to not like sex (and had ED) but I later found out he had a quite active internet porn habit.

Me: 44
H: 48
M: 4 yrs
My EA: 2010 & 2012
Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11
H left 1st time: 10/28/11
Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11
H left 2nd time: 12/23/12
Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8