Limbo Land II

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Formatting didn't work properly on that last post lol Supposed to be topic/subtopic bullet style lol

I had to stop reading about affairs & I refuse to google "separation" now that DH just moved out an hour ago. I can tend to overdue the "info" emersion and swim in that, instead of taking my mind off my sitch.

Same here, I just keep obessing about the stuff. Perhaps part of my OCD...which I was diagnosed with a mild case of and gets worse with stress/anxiety.

Detached person: "I am so tired of looking at all her crap, I am so ready for this to be out of here. I could use the extra room, and wouldn't it be nice for this place to look a little more clean and orderly, that would make me a lot happier. I think I'll just box it all up and call her and ask her to arrange when she can come by and pick it up."

Clingy/ needy person: "Gosh, I would like to box this stuff up, but what if she doesn't like how I box it? What if she doesn't want me to box it? What will she think? Will she be angry? Should I ask her about it first? Or maybe I should just not do anything for now and see how things go? Maybe she'll see it all here and want to move back? "

Which sounds like the right approach to you?

Detached person mindset and doing all I can to avoid the clingy/needy person mindset. Not going to ask her if I can/should box the stuff up, not wanting to leave it out anymore in the hopes she'll see it want to come back, but I also don't want to call her and tell her to pick the stuff up.

I don't want it to be a "you're kicked out" statement with the actions. I want to have that cool, calm, DB response when she asks me something along the lines of: do you want me to get my stuff out? are you kicking me out?