TheUF - Changing gears - Dropping the rope?

[theUF]

Thanks for stopping by CB!

Well things are pretty good! I'm back in health and have had some really nice days. Exciting days at work, having great fun w/co-workers. Started working out again and sore all over, great!
I've also been buying new clothes and getting my wardrobe in shape, I've been pretty generic clothing-wise.

Sitch-wise, well, it's pretty much the same. ALTHOUGH I'm starting to feel better about it. I'm happy regardless, and her actions or words don't dictate my mood.

We went to mediation today, and things have worked relativly good.
After mediation she invited me to a cafe with her and S, I said I had some plans but was free for a bit. She seemed almost surprised I had plans. I almost feel insulted, LOL.
I agreed and said it gave us a chance to talk about the points we "disagree" on. We had a good time, and forgot all about the issues. We discussed them afterwards, but she was quite defensive. The point I feel bad about is how she always says "you are required by law to pay half of X or Z".

I explained how I'm already paying way more than required by law and I buy clothes/food/materiels/toys etc for S. THAT is not a problem, of course I will provide for my S. However it feels quite bad to hear you continually say "you are required by law to pay X or Z". We have never had a problem moneywise and I'm there for whatever he needs and then some, so why do you feel the need to lay it out like you need to force my hand? It would feel so much better for me if you stopped formulating it that way.
She gets really defensive. I listen, validate and try to continue my end of convo, but she continues bickering. Dead end.
She said I didn't buy a lot of stuff after he was born, and that's true. I told her that's one of the main reasons I'm going the extra mile now.

She and S walked in front of me and suddenly I see S running away. Turns out she had met two guys she (obviously) knew and didn't keep an eye on S. I ran and got him and then went over to say hello. The two guys didn't greet back, just looked at me then looked away and continued talking to ex. She didn't introduce me. I laughed it off and left, talk about polite crew.

After we went swimming with S(Weekly appointment). S really enjoyed himself and it was fun for all three. She found excuses to touch me several times. She also mentioned valentines :
HER: "you know valentines is coming up. And it's your day with S" .
ME : "yeah? what about it?"
HER: "no, just, I'm free to have him if you're busy"
ME: "uh-huh. Ok."

Half hour later

HER: "So yeah, now you know I'm free to have S. I'm not going on a date. So if you are I can have him"
ME: "Allright. Nice of you to offer."

Funny thing about the cafe though. She sometimes commands me to do stuff. I can only imagine it's some kind of test to see if she can. So at the cafe she tells me to go buy some cake. Straight off, out of the blue. I told her "No. BUT, I've been doing some mindreading classes" I havent though, but she looked at me like I had lost my mind. "and if I can read your mind then YOU go buy it. Deal?" She agreed and again gave me the are-you-crazy-look. I played a pretty cool trick on her and she looked quite stunned. She then got up and bought the cakes