One thing that I had been thinking about is how to detach but keep the door open. I'm realizing my biggest fear is that if I fully detach, say to myself "she's done and it's over", and go about "moving on" and she at any time reconsiders then it'll appear that I've truly moved on and she won't bother seeking out reconcilliation with me. I keep coming off as needy/grabby/creepy/whatever you want to call it right now, but if I fully detach how will she know I'm willing to reconcile?
Trust me, SHE KNOWS. This ^^^ (if it makes you feel any better) is perhaps the #1 thing people always ask about DBing. Yes, it's counter-intuitive, but it's basic human "push-pull" dynamics. The more you push something, the more they will pull away from you.
People -- yes, even women -- like the thrill of the chase. We often value most that which is a bit elusive.
