Here are a few questions I have been struggling with. If anyone has some input, I would greatly appreciate it.
1) living situation: I have allowed my W to stay in an apartment on my property, roughly 500 feet or so from our home. She pays no rent, no utilities, no nothing. Typically, we have used that space for storage, as it is directly above our business. It is currently our off season and we simply moved all the storage items downstairs and decorated the studio apartment to be a pretty nice 700 square foot living space. However, we will be opening up for business in the next couple months for our season. I have been struggling with the options of allowing her to stay here, giving her a 30 day notice to move or simply initiating a rent schedule. I am not sure which option would best help my sitch. I do know she DOES NOT have the money to supply her own housing. That would be a serious hit to her, so I am really concerned about my decisions here.
Insurance situation: I am currently paying her individual medical insurance, at the cost of about $450 a month. I have been doing this based on the liability. If something happens to her, and she is not insured, I would risk the liability of incurring her medical costs. However, I don't really feel I should be obligated to shell out the money when I am financially strapped and she is playing up the single life. Furthermore, I have her vehicle as a rider on my bundled insurance plan. Her portion literally comes to $40 a month and she has paid it ONCE in almost 3 months. She feels we should keep it this way as it is much cheaper, but I almost feel like I am being taken advantage of here as well. Why should I help her at all? She chose to leave the household and marriage.
If anyone has some input on how they would handle this, in the best manner to support reconcilation, I would appreciate the advice. My gut instnct tells me to kick her out and let her learn to swim. But, DBing kind of tells me that would drive a stake in the heart of our marriage. I am really torn at this point.
On another topic, this time of the WAS's irrational thinking: As a lot of you know, we own a camping resort. It is 30 acres and my entire family lives on the property, brother, sister, BIL, Mother, ETC. Now, this is the crazy part. Yesterday, my W actually made a reservation for her and a girlfriend to come camping on Laborday weekend!!!!! They have done this in the past, but my W feels that it is still going to be acceptable to do this?????? WAS....who will ever understand what goes on inside of their heads...haha
