Limbo Land II

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Yeah, I hadn't really thought about it that way. I was trying to think it through the best I could. Trying to come up with a way of doing it in a non-needy fashion.

Last night I ended up texting, "Alright, I see you're putting in a lot of effort at work. How could we work this out? Maybe I could watch them next Sat or Sun unless you have a better idea? Did you *take care of logistical issue*?"

Didn't get a response, no suprise there. This logistical issue needs to be taken care of. I hate harping on it b/c it comes across like I'm pursuing but it's all business. Thing is, I'm having to ask her for help in finishing up this business so I wanted to throw out something that showed I was doing something for her so text exchange this morning:

Me: Goodmorning. Did you *take care of logistical issue* yesterday?
Her: Doing it again today the person I needed was at lunch
Me: Thanks. Also, I'm keeping an eye out for *oldest childs* glasses but no luck so far.
Her: Ok thanks I did make a new appt for him



So I obviously blew it again last night no matter how I worded it. I won't be bringing up seeing the kids again. I really hadn't thought about the restraining order kind of thing but after reading your posts I understand. I threw in about the glasses b/c of wanting to show that I'm not just expecting her to do for me and me not do for her.



One thing that I had been thinking about is how to detach but keep the door open. I'm realizing my biggest fear is that if I fully detach, say to myself "she's done and it's over", and go about "moving on" and she at any time reconsiders then it'll appear that I've truly moved on and she won't bother seeking out reconcilliation with me. I keep coming off as needy/grabby/creepy/whatever you want to call it right now, but if I fully detach how will she know I'm willing to reconcile?

Last night I did move a few things into the spare room, moved the crib into the spare room, and stripped and folded the sheets from the boys beds.