So, I know these aren't my kids and she doesn't have to do diddly. I know Tue she didn't work until 9pm, she off at 7pm. I also don't believe she would work solid 7 days a week with two of her kids bdays in the same week, the babies 1st bday, and her male friend who came in the store mentioned the bday party they're having. So, I'm pretty damn sure she's lying to me and honestly, it wouldn't be hard for me to find out if she's lying to me. It pisses me off that it's a lie for whatever reason (I'll avoid the mind reading this time around) and I don't want my emotions to get the best of me.
She's lying to you. So what? She doesn't live with you anymore, she's done with you, she doesn't want you around her kids. She is DONE! The fact that she is willing to lie just to try and get you off her back shows just how "done" she is. She doesn't answer to you. She has completely detached from you. You on the other hand are continuing the same old needy, grabby, desperate behavior that has driven her away. When are you going to stop it and detach?
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I know the calm, cool thing is to just say something along the lines of "Ok, could you keep it in mind for the week after?" Or, I want to say, "Ok, I understand, could I just pick up the kids one night after I get done at work and you can pick them up when you're done at work?"
No, that's pressure. She's already told you "no" twice, why do you think you'll get a different response the 3rd time? The calm, cool thing would be to say "I understand and I respect your boundaries. Even though I'd like to visit with the children I can see that it's not what you want. Please let me know if you change your mind about this in the future."
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It feels like all passive-agressive punishment (I know, b/c I've done it plenty myself) to me. That she's just trying to stick it to me and hurt me b/c she can and it's an easy lie that I SHOULDN'T argue unless I truly am a douchebag.
Or maybe she's DONE and doesn't want you around her or her children. It doesn't sound to me like she's punishing you or being vindictive, she's trying to keep you at a distance and the more you fight it the more scared/ concerned she will get. I see a restraining order in your future if you keep this up.
