I'm pretty sure she doesn't drink daily only if there was a relatives birthday party etc but she definitely drinks to excess when she does drink. Since our S I have been at the same social club as her once, the kids were in her care although I enjoyed there company, spent time with them etc by the time I had to leave she was drunk and I did wonder if leaving the kids with her was the right thing to do? She has friends that are single with no kids and drag her out, sometimes my kids are in my care so no problem but if they are not and 'she's being dragged out' I worry that anybody could be looking after them. One weekend all 3 kids were at different carers!
Being with 3 different carers is not as concerning as her driving with the kids when she's drunk or the kids being exposed to her when she's drunk. Who takes care of the 3 yo when she's drunk and the kids are with her?
People don't "drag" her anywhere, she's an adult and makes a choice to go.
Do you think your kids are in danger?
[quote}Regarding no expectations - are you saying I should do my bit but don't expect anything back?
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Yes but also have no expectations of how she'll act toward you. That's part of detaching your feelings come from you not from how another person treats you. It's the ability to allow people to be who they "really are" rather than who you "want them to be."
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
