My wife came over tonight to file our taxes since I have always filed them every year. At first I could tell she is overwhelmed with her uncle and the she was made power of attorney. As she spoke I looked her directly in her eyes so she knows that I am paying attention, since one of her complaints was that I never listened to her. Even while I was working on the taxes if she would speak to me I would stop what I was doing and face her and give her my undivided attention.
While I was preparing the taxes my wife asked me if after the loan we took out to repair the truck was paid if I would be willing to remove my name from the truck so she knows that I wouldn't try and screw her over and leave her with nothing. I kindly and softly said to her that" tonight was not the night for that type of conversation" just because I didn't want it to turn ugly or whatnot.
My wife was surprised though because we still have 3 bills in both of our names and she asked how would we split our refund. I told her that I would have total of those 3 bills plus her half deposited into her account and my half into my account, but what surprised her is when I said " I trust you". She said that she would show ,e a receipt or bill statement to show it has been paid. And I said don't bother" I trust you." And then she replied but you never trusted me before.
2 things though happened during our interaction that surprised me but I kept calm and kept my cool and didn't try and read into it more at the time but now puzzles me. Maybe someone can help me understand or maybe there is nothing to understand.
1) at one point my wife made the comment that her bruises from the accident happened to be spreading and then she showed me some bruises on her stomach and sides, but what was weird is then she showed me one around the downstairs lady parts.
2) as my wife left she asked me if I wanted her to call me when she got to her uncles which is about. 10 hour trip so that way I know she and her cousin made it and is safe. All I could think of at the time was to look her in the eyes and say "that's up to you."
