Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated 2

[sam4nh]

I wish I had seen your message before I met with my W. I’ll give myself a D- for my performance tonight. My W delivered the exact message I thought she would during our meeting. She explained that she wanted to make our separation "more permanent” as she put it. She wants to move on with her life and that she is taking a different path, working on her independence, career, working out, etc. She was almost overly calm about the entire conversation. It was light some of the time. Interesting she limited the times when she said she wanted a divorce, but instead said she wanted to make the separation “more permanent”.

She went onto say something about take all of the other people out of the picture and that she has not been happy for a long time. I said I thought we had got some of this this back a little last year. She said maybe physically but, definitely no connection between us. I guess not when you sharing all of your emotions with someone else (and No I did not say that).

She talked about how we could see a counselor who could help us reach an agreement on the divorce agreement. Meaning helping us agree on the division of property in the divorce decree, nothing about the R. She thinks it might help if we had a third party, just for communicating and agreeing on the divorce property.

I unfortunately went down the R path more than I should. I said I had hope that we could eventually work through our problems. I also said we did not need to rush into anything like a life changing decision such as a divorce. I know, how stupid can I be after reading as much as I have and then mentally trying to keep the conversation away from this. To top it all with a nice cherry, lets ask her if she is sure this is what she wants....Of course it is. I just couldn’t keep my mouth shut, but no not me.

I said that I thought there were options for us such as seeing a MC for six months to see if divorce was our only option. She said she was not willing to do that right now. I asked if divorce was her only option and she said yes. I know I shouldn’t have asked, but I did. I asked if the only way to make her happy was a divorce, I would not stand in her way. I then asked if a divorce was her only option...She had no answer for that and I left it alone.

Will a divorce fix this problem her feelings of unhappiness and she corrected me to say she wants to move forward". She went onto say even if we get a divorce, if people are meant to be together it can happen that they get back after divorce… She said she was not suggesting that this would happen to us, but it does happen? But that is not where she is right now.

I guess I should just quit now and sign the f*ing papers as much as I screw up. I’m tired and disappointed with the way I could not keep to the program.