Also, should H have any say in this (in case he ever DOES come back)? Or, would he see this as a "I guess she is going to make decisions w/o me." (i.e. "acting as if")
Heck no. Let him find the cat, and dozens of other new and exciting things in your life on his own. You want him to know you are moving on with your life as you see fit, not waiting around for him or his approval.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
