Thanks for the feedback about VDay, Andrew, vero & Tori,

Good idea about only gift from boys, although they wouldn't normally get him something--me maybe, but not him! smile

I LOVE the idea about "pay it forward!" Maybe that could be a goal for every day in February..or 2-3 times a week anyway!

I'll think about the kitten...I know that cats can have such diverse personalities & I'd want one that would love to be held and around people a lot.

Tori, my MIL (H's sister) & her girls are also highly allergic too, but they only visit us 3-4 times a year, so I'm not sure that should keep us from getting one.

Also, should H have any say in this (in case he ever DOES come back)? Or, would he see this as a "I guess she is going to make decisions w/o me." (i.e. "acting as if")

M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.