LBS-still hauling-3rd lap

[labug]

Says she thinks C is trying to get her to be independent. I think she is, we need to be interdependent.

Instead of disagreeing with the C, say nothing.

Says me getting ajob won't be a magic pill, we need to take steps. I agreed. Said I am taking a step and I want you to take a step.

she says they ostracize her...she is the one who left every relationship she has... I just shake my head at the amount of hostility and blame she has for everyone but herself.

I wasn't there but that doesn't sound hostile. She can choose who she spends time with. You judge every decision she makes that you don't agree with and I would guess this is part of the reason she's gone.

Can you let go of that need to control long enough to see that you aren't the only one hurting?

You are still consistently trying to change her. STOP or you will blow your chance.