I just read your posts from start to today, I have just recently joined the boards, I feel like I am in the same shoes except we have 2 children so I can't fully detach. I feel your pain and hope your H realizes what a good W he has and that's not something to be thrown away. My H drinks also and went out weekly with his buddies, mostly on Sundays for football... we both started going out with our friends more & more the last few years and took turns babysitting, it is only the last few months we started dating each other, looking back it was probably because I could feel us drifting apart... it may have been a sign of too little too late as I found out about his affair not long after
