February is tomorrow. So, we all know that means Valentine's Day.
Is the general consensus that LBS's simply ignore the day where S is concerned, esp when there is a OP in the scene???
I HATE, HATE, HATE that H will be expressing his love to OW, instead of me.
I've thought about sending a dozen red roses, with one colored rose for HOPE, having them delivered at his work where SHE is! But, I know this is pursuing behavior and it probably wouldn't be well received. Then again, at this point I feel like I have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I probably should just save my money.
Every sitch is different. You have to figure out what is best for you and yours. Will it pull you closer, or push him away?
I know my wife will appreciate a card, even though she might not acknowledge it, so she will be getting one. Besides, there's an outside chance she'll get me one. I don't want to be caught with my pants down, with no card for her.
It will be a friendly or funny card, nothing mushy about love and kisses, no flowers or candy to go with it. I looked today and there are plenty like this made for giving a friend. Found one I almost went for, because it made me laugh and is the truth:
"I'm still not sick of you"
(open card)
"Happy Valentines day!"
I decided it could look a little cold, so I nixed it. On the other hand, making that kind of bold statement could be seen as very assertive and confident, traits women like in men. What do you all think?
We have a pile of blank cards in our office with nature scenes on the front. I'll probably just pick one of those and write something non-pursuing, non-mushy inside commemorating the day.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
