I've been NC with stbx since xmas time - apart from answering the home phone when he rings occasionally asking to speak to kids.
They have started back at school and for the first time he has not contacted me to ask if he can pick them up and drive them home in the afternoons.
He has been threatening me with going to court to finalise settlement if I don't agree to his condition for mediation - that I will not require any documentation/analysis of his financial situation.
I have not replied to his ultimatum other than to say that i want to settle via mediation asap.
I am cordial and polite when I do speak to him, but he has told the kids that he can't come to the house now that I am being so difficult over negotiating financial matters. He has barely seen them in the last 12 weeks.
I presume he can't face me if he is proceeding with court action. But he has really stopped seeing both me and the kids, so this is a major change in his behaviour.
Not sure how to evaluate this in DB terms, but I am feeling much more detached now that contact is less frequent.
And I don't really see any more how we could reconcile.
Perhaps if he had a complete change of character from this strange new version... but that seems impossible.
I know I'm going to be alright (personally, not necessarily financially). The prospect of an expensive, angry court settlement with him doesn't thrill me, but it doesn't scare me witless like it used to.
I'm thinking that after around 18 months -2 years of limbo, one finally gets to the point of being able to contemplate moving on. For me it's been the passage of time more than anything else, I think (aside, of course from the help of you guys out there!).
