Is it too late to DB?

[25yearsmlc]

25years, Thankyou for the input I value your opinion. Is it possible that you have me mixed up with someo ne else? My H was a great H and dad before MLC and to my knowledge he never cheated before MLC.

MY BAD & Mea Culpa! I did mix you up with someone else (w/a h who has had multiple affairs.)

So sorry! I need to post to fewer people...yikes. I will say one thing about the "MLC" label however. I spent way too much time wondering if my h was in one b/c he had been so responsible before hand, financially and with the kids...

but I wish I had dropped that obsession of mine. It kept me distracted from GAL and focussing on a new life for me and our kids, without my h, but with me being happy.

See, imo, the course of action for YOU is the same regardless of his being a WAS or a MLCer. I don't believe one has a higher rate of reconciliation than the other but I DO Think we like labels to explain the inexplicable.

Focus on YOU and your kids.


Paradoxically, when you stop making it about what HE is doing/thinking/feeling, and only work on YOU and GAL,
you begin a healthy detachment.

When you stop putting all your eggs in the "results" basket,
that seems to be when the WAS/MLCer begins to examine their choices.

My single biggest regret is how much time I wasted staring at HIS choices -instead of making new ones for ME.

Good luck.

Again, my apologies.