EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

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Thank you for following me to my new thread. During my first coaching session with Laurie, I was asked to start to experiment with light touch and see how my W responds.

i was told to take note of her reactions, and then in my second session with Laurie we will talk about how to "tweak" this.

So yesterday was my first day with this new approach. I had been with holding affection and maintaining physical space for 2 months now, but engaging W mentally and emotionally. I think now is the time for mentally, AND physically. So here goes...

Last night when I got home, W was cooking her awesome crab cake recipe which is my favorite (and she knows it). So when I came into the kitchen and saw that, I stood right next to her and put an arm around her but shoulder height, and squeeze her towards me just a little, and said "Oh you are making crab cakes, my favorite!". She looked at me and smiled and said "Yes I know, thats why I'm making them". No discomfort noted, although that might have been the closest I have been to her in 2 months.

Later when it was D3 bedtime, we went into her room together to put her in her bed, as we do EVERY night since she was born. Before BD, one of us would hold D3, and then we would kiss her at the same time together, each one of us on one cheek. Its like our family group hug and kiss before D3 bedtime.

For the last two months, it has been a little different. Whoever is holding her kisses her, then the other leans in to kiss the other cheek but without really touching each other.

So this time, I was holding D3 and when wife leaned in to kiss her, I took a little step closer and my arm that was under D3 was pressed up against my W and her large breasts (hmm I miss them!). I made sure to kiss D3 at the same time that W was, and wife even put her arm around both of us to pull D3 closer, mashing my arm between the two of them. No discomfort noted in my W, possibly even enjoyed it.

After dinner, I told W that I saw that Theresa Caputo (the long island medium) would be having a show in our town in a couple weeks. So I said "Hey honey, I want to go to see Theresa Caputo's show, would you like to join me?". She looked at me and lit up and said "YES, I would LOVE too!, that would be AWESOME!". She was very enthusiastic so I told her I would take care of the tickets, and that its on a Saturday night so she would no not to make plans with OM. I haven't spent a Saturday night with W since BD because she is always with OM that night.

This morning, W was dressing D3 for school. It was early and normally W would sleep in and I get D3 ready and get her to school. So I came in and stood next to W (as I would do normally) and leaned in to give D3 a kiss. Then I looked at my W and said "You look tired, would you like me to take over?" and at the same time, I patted her on the back. She said "I'm so exhausted, I didn't sleep very well tonight". Maybe because I'm confusing her now with the physical touch? not reading into it. W's hair was a little out of place, so I ran my fingers through her hair 3 times and said "I'm so sorry you didn't sleep well". She smiled. No discomfort noticed.

So, after the first day of physical touch, and a tiny bit of pursuing (invitation to join me for a nice show on a saturday night), I see absolutely no pull back from W. She seems very receptive and quite comfortable.

She is still changing infront of me. Yesterday, she got completely naked in our bedroom while I was talking to her.

So now I am very confused. Could she really be treating me as just a friend? Or is she making sure I stay interested until she sees whats going on with OM?

Last info then I will turn it over to all of you to offer your help suggestions etc. This morning D3 woke up and then walked across the entire house, passed the guest room where W is sleeping now, and to the master bedroom where I sleep. She jumped into bed with me.

So then W got out of bed and came out when she heared us, even though we had planned from the last night that I was going to take care of D3 and get her to school, and W had picked out what D3 would wear because she would NOT be getting out of bed early.

When I told W "Hey baby good morning. Why are you up so early? I was going to take care of breakfast and all that". Then wife said something that made me wonder if she is starting to see how life would change for all of us, if she moves out and in with OM and leaves D3 with me as she planned.

W said "D3 woke up and went right to see you. She didn't come into the guest room because she expects that I'm not there. I don't like that". I kept a straight face and moved on to another topic.

Now over to you guys! How am I doing? Is this too much? Can any of the ladies answer the "are we just friends" question?