Limbo Land II

[jzoom]

I see what you mean about the contridictions you were experiencing but I'm still confused.

Without regurgitating what I've already written I'm not sure how to explain it. What about when their words are negative and the actions seem to be in line.

For example, in my sitch, she says she doesn't want to get back together with me and she's happy with OM. She's living with OM, they're going out on dates, and there is very little negative talk about him and basically I'm non-existent. It's like she truly wants me out of her life completely and the more I LRT, go dark, I'm just giving her exactly what she wants so she can forget about me.

But, then, that's focusing on her. I just try and find comfort in those DB rules and could accept the "what they say" part b/c it gives me hope that it's the fog/EA/depression speaking and if I DB I stand a chance of getting her back b/c she's just trying to hurt me right now.

But I don't see actions on her part like getting lovey dovey with me or coming by the house when I'm around or anything...so how do I believe less than 50% of what I see?

Just confused and probably rambling here. I did have a good night last night and since it's a weekly meeting I'm going to go as often as I can.

I am thinking about starting to box up more of her stuff and put it away in the spare room so that I don't have to look at it everyday and if/when she comes by it has that look of: 12. Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude. & 17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse.