Lonely, Sad and No Communication

[LJC]

So here's the bigger question-why can't you say no to people? What hole are you trying to fill.

Thinking about it its not a matter of not being able to say no but I was always quick to offer my services without getting approval from my W. If I was needed I wouldn't mention it until the time came but by then W had arranged something and would say oh sorry Im needed at such and such. So if anything there was communication issues as well.

I have read up on Co dependancy and there are some striking similarities to how I act and feel etc. I have ordered the book from Amazon anyway, thanks for the recommendation.

Regarding change - I'm struggling. I've identified area's in my life with a IC but change how I think? Sounds like I need re-wiring!

Ref. her drinking - I can't control that and Ive always known she likes a drink but now we live under separate roof's my concern is the kids, who has them/where are they staying etc

Thanks again