Why can't she identify that you've changed? Have you really changed or are you acting at being changed to win her back? Whatever her reasons for leaving the M, I'm sure it's been going on for longer than 14 weeks so it will take longer than that for her to begin to believe that this is not an act.
My devotion to fire service is one of her bug bears and it is a big commitment. She was always moaning that I did to much round 'the station' but when we separated she said she didnt want me to give it up.
When you "change" part of that is changing not only what you're doing but what you're thinking. Is the above typical of how you would think about your W's concerns-she was always moaning. Why would she talk to you now if she thought you would think of it as more moaning.
My hat's off to you for working the fire service but did you spend too much time there? Did you need to be there as much as you were? Was it worth not spending time with W and kids? Was the firehouse your EA, your addiction? Workaholics get served D papers everyday.
When you S it no longer mattered to her where you spent your time.
As far as the family connections, tell your family you don't want to hear about what W is doing.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
