As women age they begin to worry about loss of their attractiveness. We need to be reassured that we are beautiful but also that we still can "bring it". A woman looks to her H to tell her this. It's his job. If he doesn't she will seek it elsewhere.
We want to see you jump through the hoops like you did in the beginning. My H used to stay up all night long with me on the phone. Today.....he pretends to be tired at 10pm and goes to bed and leaves me all alone on the computer........not smart. Our sex life was on a schedule so that he wouldn't ever have to put out much effort. Definitely not a turn on.
Me: 44 H: 48 M: 4 yrs My EA: 2010 & 2012 Me arrested for DV: 10/28/11 H left 1st time: 10/28/11 Reconciled after I pursued: 12/21/11 H left 2nd time: 12/23/12 Kids from OR: S16, S10, S8