House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 3)

[FloydMan]

Well that was surreal. My W had not responded to a banking matter that she has left for a month....we need to go and sign a mortgage renewal by tomorrow or it defaults. Anyway, she is a bank manager and should know this but argued with me for weeks about it. The L's got involved last week and so did the bank and W was proved wrong. She was so stubborn to listen to reason. Thanks for costing hundreds of dollars W. She was supposed to book a time tomorrow with me to do it but had not replied to the request yesterday as per the bank....it needs to be done by tomorrow or we default. She gets home so I ask her if she was going to get back to me with a meeting time. She started berating me in front of my d14 and d10 heard from the other room. She would not believe me on the bank process and protocol to do this again and continued in on me that I just want my way. Wtf????? How is it my way? I am open to times, we have to do it or we default on mortgage....she is a bank manager! She argued with me for 10 minutes. Then I had to speak my mind and tell her not to speak that way to me again in front of kids. I had a friggin backbone. She left for a walk and she came back and I asked her if she was ready to speak rationally so we could deal with this financial matter. She said "No!" then she said "which branch?". She said she would meet me tomorrow at 7 at the bank. I asked her why she argued with me for 10 minutes about it. Here is the surreal part....she said she did not argue with me! Said it did not happen that she agreed it was how it was supposed to be done. All I could do was shake my head and again remind her not to yell in front of the kids. Then I should not have but kind of glad I did, I told her she needs help and needs to see someone for her own good and that she was not right.
It's funny, we were discussing on another thread if you can love someone and hate them at the same time.....the answer from most is yes, but I also think you can pity them too at the same time.