Splitting always sounds good to the WAS in the beginning (I know I felt that way the first 2-3 weeks) but after a while it begins to stink. The WAS begins to see how dependent they were on their SO and regret sets in. It might take longer for this epiphany than you expected so patience is required.
Keep up with the program. ILYBNILWY (something I've been saying to my H for years) is a reflection of how much the person is dissatisfied with their life, with their self. It's a cop out and the WAS has poor communication skills and lacks the ability to say "I don't like me. I want to change myself." Instead they blame the spouse
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective, gave me some hope.
