Making the MOST of where YOU are !

[AJM]

How is it that you'll want to meet somebody if you're not a little lonely?

However, I guess what Im wondering is if I'll ever meet someone if I continue doing what Im happy with?

I mean in order to meet someone does a person HAVE to go out on the singles scene and prowl around? Be let down from one online dating site to another?

It's my firm belief you'll find somebody while doing what you're happy doing. Going on the prowl will help you find "somebody" not necessarily the person you are happy being with. Why do I say that? Because the person you're going to be happy being with will enjoy some of the same things you do. It's that sharing of some common interests that will make that person interesting to you.

But it never hurts to expand your circles of interest, right? As you do that, you WILL meet somebody you are really interested in sharing your life with.

I think serial dating is more of a way to meet "somebody" vs. a person of true interest. You could meet somebody of true interest that way, but it's not as likely in my experience.

Like you, I've felt that way. I tried the dating and bar scene. Truth is, I enjoy people and the bar scene was fun for that. Kind of like an anthropologist in an amateur fashion. I get a lot of energy from that. I don't do it as much now though, but that's just because life has changed for me and I don't have time. I still enjoy that. But I met a great lady while doing things I like to do. We share several common interests and I enjoy her company. She's a beautiful woman. But I would not have met her on a dating site. I'm not into that and neither is she. In fact, I've met several great ladies that way. I've met a few that didn't work out, but that's ok too. Can't be afraid to try, and the motivator for me was that tinge of loneliness. And the desire to share my life with somebody else.

I think what you describe is very normal, K. Just don't be afraid to expand your social circles a little at a time to see who else is out there. We're not in high school or college, but we still meet people via social activities. They are just not always centered around drinking (bars) or dating sites as adults.

Peace,
AJ